one of the scariest concepts in life is the one of change . at the same time, it is one of the most needed too .The idea that nothing is ever 'permanent' scares the hell out of people . I can't even lie, it makes me feel uncomfortable too . We take comfort in the idea that rainy days will not last forever. If we are broke today, we will eventually stumble across some type of money . If we have a little cold, we know that it'll go away with time. If we are having a bad day, we can rest assured that tomorrow is a fresh start .
On the other hand, we have a very hard time accepting the idea that all good things have to come to an end sometime . Good weather is nice while it lasts . You just bought a new car but something will happen to it eventually... tires, brakes, something . Relationships can only be good until one person messes things up ? Is that true ?
Remember that scene in Sex and the City when Charlotte is terrified to have a baby after years of being barren ? She sees how her friends' marriages and relationships have fallen apart and thinks that her life is going too good . It may sound crazy, but a lot of girls have that feeling . They only believe that things can go downhill after a certain amount of time. The thing about relationships are the fact that we have a smidge more control than you would think. relationships or even marriages do not go smoothly just because people are compatible. silly people lol . Little nuances and details will alternate . Things will not always go according to plan, but the point is to look at the bigger picture.
If you want the relationship to work, then you have to work at it. You have to feed it and nurse it just like you would a baby . The food = honesty, respect, communication. Nursing = spontaneity, romance, and honestly, a foundation in God . I know that makes people move in their seat uncomfortably , but the reason why is because it's true. Someone praying for you and being on the same spiritual accord is important when you expect someone to love you and be real with you . If you change , if your boyfriend/girlfriend changes ... the one thing that doesn't have to be is that spiritual foundation .