Can I Talk My Shxt Again?

Hello, out there! 
I want take this time to thank all of the Vivi’s Humanity Expanse readers and supporters. I started this blog as a simple outlet to express myself and “release” my frustrations with society. I had no idea that my blog would impact so many people and generate consistent readers. I received so many inspiring Facebook messages, emails, and tweets. To put it simply, that’s awesome. I love writing and now I am making a transition.

I am launching a new blog! It will be bigger, bolder, doper and hopefully worth the wait. My new blog will have wider subject matter and feature some fantastic, contributing writers as well! I can’t wait to show you all what’s in store. My new blog will be launched on January 25th, 2013 and it only seems fitting that I would post the link on this page. I really hope you all will pack up your cyber luggage and move over to my new site. We’d love to have you!

All My Love,
Stevi Darden, Creator of Steviwonderwoman.blogspot.com

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So What Now: Digesting the Sweet Election Victory

You know, I did not know how liberated and empowered I felt as an American until I almost lost it all. Yesterday, I was genuinely scared … for numerous reasons.

One, I was scared that I was going to have to struggle for the remainder of my life. I know it sounds extreme, but it's true. The democratic and republican agendas differed so much that I would virtually live one of two extremes for the next four years. Also, the political self-esteem of minorities in this country is fragile. If we had lost the election yesterday, I’m not sure how powerful we would feel in the legislative process. “My vote doesn’t count” was said way too often yesterday. I was worried that this counterproductive mindset would scar us – and the future generations to come. That would ultimately change my livelihood forever. 

Two, I watched true American ignorance and desperation yesterday- from both democrats and republicans. When asked why they supported Romney, people said, “I … I just… believe in his policies.” When asked which policies, they could not answer. Mitt Romney and Barack Obama were both likened to the devil yesterday, and I heard democrats limiting republicans to “white people”. How limited. Like Joe Biden, our two-term vice president, is not white? This election has shed an ugly (but much needed) light on the division, classism, and racism in this country. Throughout this election, I have felt as though I’m perceived as “too incompetent” of making my own decisions about my sexuality, my body, education and career. That scares me because it is very reminiscent of a much older, hare-filled time.

Nevertheless, I feel empowered , proud and I have a little more hope in my country. At the end of the day, there are more struggling, compassionate, underrepresented people in this country than not. I hope they can see how their voice affects the nation. There is power in numbers and we can implement benevolence into politics. Those two concepts do not have to be oil and water. I am confident that we can work together for a stronger, cohesive livelihood in America. 

Congratulations to President Barack Obama- four more years. 


you got questions, I got answers !

“What advice would you give to courageous few that actually enjoy trying to solve the Rubik’s Cube of a woman's psyche? Any algorithms that you feel comfortable exposing? ”

It was actually interesting to hear that some men find the female psyche to be intriguing. Most times, it seems as though men equate the female mind to Alcatraz. There IS one thought that I feel comfortable exposing- and that is the see-saw between who women are and who we have to be. Let me explain.

Modern day women (especially women of color) are plagued with the responsibility to be independent. In case you have yet to notice, women’s rights have become more prominent in today’s political debates and issues. In the past sixty years, there have been uprisings of single-parent/mommy homes. Basically, women are groomed to be strong and independent more than ever before.

And most women love the autonomy. However, we’d love for men to be that pillar of strength for us sometimes too. We’re strong because we have to be, not because we want to step on any man-toes. It’s just that we have some reservations. For example, it’s frustrating for women because men send mixed signals. When she doesn’t need anybody, she is emasculating and domineering. Yet, when she lets her guard down and leans on you, she’s clingy. It can often times feel like men want us at their leisure but cannot handle authentic emotions that come with it. 

That’s why you have so many hot and cold, on and off women out there. So many women are reluctantly laying brick on top of brick- building emotional walls. They do not want to, but they know that men will try to conquer the territory with no real intention of staying in it. Something to think about?