bougie romance & gold-digger have very fine line distinctions .but ... i dont think my friends suggestion was "bougie" . i think she has standards and she is entitled to those . every girl wants to be wined and dined a little bit and most girls want guys with some ambitions, some goals, some drive . nothing is wrong with wanting a spouse (loosely speaking) who has some of the same IMPORTANT interests . i say important because i dont think it's healthy to dismiss a guy because he doesnt enjoy intricate basket weaving like you do , smh . im just saying, some things in life are standards, and some things are just picky . sometimes, we have to decide what is on the bougie bar, and what is simply an important standard .
Now, the second person said she didnt mind if her guy was broke and was not in school ... she just cared that he loved her & that he wanted her to be his "wife someday". aww, now isnt that cute ? and N A I V E . it's one thing to date someone who wants to work (but has no money), but it's another thing to marry someone who cannot provide like you need . Im not speaking from some 1950's pregnant and barefoot feminine mentality. Im simply saying that most women find it attractive if their man is a hard worker . It's nice to know that if times got hard, he would grind hard and protect. If he has the ability to provide for his family by any means necessary, it's a sign of strength and determination .
---> most guys who say that a girl's standards are unrealistic are usually the ones who are intimidated . It's not about money or status, i think it's more about state of mind .
p.s. if you missed the first part of this topic: http://steviwonderwoman.blogspot.com/2009/11/bougie-bar.html
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