1. the unlawful compelling of a person through physical force or duress to have sexual intercourse.
2. any act of sexual intercourse that is forced upon a person.
I find it so interesting that dictionary.com uses the word, “duress” which means: compulsion by threat or force; coercion; constraint.
Convenience is the direct antithesis of sexual safety and responsibility. You see, men and women like to conveniently picture rape as a concrete scenario: a lost and bewildered woman wanders down a dark alley and a man in tattered clothes creeps out of the shadows and has his way with her. How closed minded is that? We have to stop “watering-down” such complex and saturated concepts such as sexual assault. Instead, we need to break down the common misconceptions:
Rape is bad. I hate to talk down to people, but unfortunately, we live in a society that is so obsessed with alternative lifestyles that is does not acknowledge simple ethics. People do not want to face the fact that some things are blatantly wrong. RAPE IS WRONG. There is no way to justify making a person bend and/or shatter their sexual boundaries. The physical, emotional and psychological trauma is … life changing. The act of rape is disgusting, sick, and twisted. Plain and simple. Do not let someone justify raping or forcing someone to have sex.
YES. Rape can happen within a union. It’s interesting to me how couple’s are willing to surrender complete control over their bodies when they change their Facebook relationship status. That is problematic. Saying “no” should always be recognized, regardless of a committed relationship. Also, a person who loves you should respect your right to say no. There are plenty of women in Ghana whose husbands are raping them in order to make them bear children …children that they do not want to carry and/or cannot provide for. See, if you are a person who envisions women as merely vessels for penises and fetuses, then you should revisit your therapist and address your f*cking mommy issues. That's sick.
Rape is unique, every time. Contrary to popular belief, there is no “one size fits all” reaction or scenario to rape. I have heard numerous stories about girls who have frozen up in those moments out of trauma, confusion, or shock. Just because she did not scream, kick, and punch a man in the face does not mean the sex was consensual or that the other person wanted sex. “She said we shouldn’t, but her eyes said she wanted it”, “I know when a girl is bluffing’” and other pathetic excuses have a severe stench of arrogance and inhumanity.