letter to my unborn daughter

to my heiress of the throne,

understand that being a Queen implies that others will want you to fall . never give into the gallows of insecure men who try to behead you and rid you of your mind. plant your thoughts into ripened soil and let your ideas flourish. little boys are intimidated by a strong mind, but sturdy men will appreciate one. 

never be ashamed of your emotions. society will suggest that they make you weak, rid you of your strength. false, your majesty. harness your feelings and channel them into expression. nothing is wrong with a sense of humanity. be careful because wild, uncultivated emotions can shake the tectonic plates in your relationships and life. instead, throw your emotions into the air -sparking salt into the bland world around you.  

Maya Angelou said, "Does my sexiness upset you?/ Does it come as a surprise

That I dance like I've got diamonds/ At the meeting of my thighs?" my child, you have diamonds ! & NEVER let a man or woman depreciate the value of them. what they do with their coal is their business.  you are so much more than breasts, thighs, and ass. and if you so happen to stump your toe on a man worthy of your treasure, make sure he has the patience, endurance, and focus to dig for the reward that is you .

laugh. play. cry. hug. kiss. think. hard. interior design the outside world as if it were your own, lush living room. protect & provide for the ones you care for when others fall short. never cut the umbilical cord that connects you to your spirituality. speak to God and listen for the response. strip yourself of sticky facades. go barefoot. go naked, but stay strapped for war. my love, ak-47s won't be enough to equip you for the internal battle of life; if you're confused ... i'll be sure to place Ephesians 6:10 underneath your pillows.

i'm not sure if you will be pushed from my womb or pulled out from the ink of adoption papers, but i love you, unconditionally. my daughter ... you are woman, let them hear you roar. 

MY TRUE LOVE SERIES POSTS.

for the next few days i will be posting my post series on "LOVE". im sure it will make some people uncomfortable. it will make some nod in agreement or maybe have others mad at me (lol) who knows. i honestly wish i could muster up the strength to be more concerned about the latter. either way, i think it will help some poor lost soul out there who has made my mistakes, wants to avoid my mistakes, or has misconceptions about love in general. 

:) let's get it innnn shawty lol  ... (i know, i know).

'how to love unconditionally' by stevi ♥

1. be patient . when you love someone, they will not be perfect . they might have some insecurities . they might sing the wrong lyrics to your favorite songs. you're significant other might pick at your plate of food [*see kevin hart's seriously funny for more info lol] . they might wear a busted pair of holey-shoes that you cant stand !!they may chew with their mouth open ... that's just bad home trainin' aha . at the end of the day, you aren't perfect either and sometimes you have to take some bad if you have an amazing person on your arm that 'gets you' and understands you .

2. communicate . if something is bothering you, let it out ! dont let things build up and then all of a sudden you wanna strangle him cause he left the milk on the counter lol . you look crazy & then he's sleeping with one eye open . it's weird & awkward i'm sure . on a serious note, open up to the person that you love . you may not know it, but they may feel the exact same way you do about a situation . it's much easier to say, "i love you so much" than it is, "you really hurt me when ..."

3. forgive . if men are men, and women are women ... someone's gunna hurt the other person . now, my friend got mad at me and said, "I REFUSE TO EXCEPT THAT ! WHY DO WE HAVE TO ANTICIPATE BEING HURT??" after i told her to chill out & stop screaming (lol)... i tried to explain . im not condoning cheating on a loved one & hurting someone is not always directly correlated to 'cheating' (excuse my extremely formal tone here) . hurting can be lying, or being deceitful, or cursing or whateverrrr . im just saying, if the person is worthy of your love, you can try your best to forgive and move on .

4. selflessness . OMG i cannot stress this enough . we have to sacrifice for the ones we love . here's the crazy part, we shouldn't mind because ultimately, we want to see the other person to be HAPPY ! now, hopefully the same thing is reciprocated from your partner (you dont want someone who simply takes and takes) & that results in a beautiful relationship . being generous, thoughtful and considerate is the ultimate way to display love .

5. lastly, God is love . it takes hard work to love someone unconditionally . when they hurt you or fall short of expectations ... you feel like things are impossible . however, if God is present in the relationship ... any bruise can be healed and any harm can be undone :) even circumstances that seem too crazy, they are mended through Jesus . I have learned so much about what it means to LOVE: through observation, advice, the bible & even personal experiences . of course i dont know it all, and who am i to advise you all ? lol ... but hey, i wish the best for all those couples out there & im hoping this helps !

-Stevi Renee , XoXo