#yawn .

We could be reading books or magazines ? we could write stories . we could go shopping or we could cook . we could take up dancing lessons or go to bible study . perhaps we could go outside and sketch the scene . maybe we could juggle jobs and try to make some green, smoke green ? whatever . i could do my school work ? you could start a non-profit ? we could save the world . i could take up knitting or breed turtles in a huge bath tub in my backyard . PLEASE ! we can do anything but talk about boys .

I'm so tired of talking about men like they're the oxygen to life's lungs . i am officially done caring about who played who , what he said, where you saw him, who had sex with who, who he cheated with, the games he's playing, how wack his girl is, who he punched, or how he lost a good thing . AYE, whooooo cares ? lmbo . clearly not me . boys are only boys . Either way, whooooo cares ? there are so many other things to be concerned about ... not weak men who dont even deserve the energy .

set up to fail: black women longing for love.

i heard some crazy statistic while i was eating dinner with my friends today . Something like 40% of African American women will not be married in their lifetime . Then she told me about 70-something percent of women with Bachelor and/or graduate degrees will never be married ! Not to mention, there are alot more women than men. [90 males per 100 females in the Black or African American population in 2000.]
(blog post/article from my friend about that coming soon lol)

Even crazier than that, is the realization that i don't really care . it seemed like one of my friends was hurt by the statistic and wanted to save our 'happily ever after', "noooo . i really think we'll all get married." i listened . my other friend laughed and chimed in, ". . . naw, i probably wont." i ate my onion rings and said my little input about the statistic (because i always have to talk lol). BUT, the probability was, three out of the four of us at the dinner table would never have the title of 'MRS' .

we joked to my friend about holding on to who she has, because if her boyfriend was let loose, some random hood rat would be quick to latch on . we laughed , but we all knew the reality of the situation . . . it was probably true . With ten percent (791,600 in 2000) of African American males incarcerated and a lesser percentage in college, should women be nervous? How many Black men graduated from High School? How many of those Black men are Gay? How many are on the down low? BUT, does holding on to the 'one you have' guarantee a happy marriage though ? is it crazy for girls to be worried about finding a husband at age 20 ? Should Black women date outside of their race ? Has this defected generation caused young ladies go crazy in a frenzy to find "Mr.Right"?

** Well as far as im concerned, all that can go to hell , statistics don't make a person's fate ... God does . I realized that i dont care about statistics, i care about being with someone who's a ride or die. When i thought about that, a lot of things came into perspective for me. what about you ? what do you think ?

cry me a river already

okay . what he said was rude . but CHILL out already . kanye didnt bash taylor's song/personality/career ...he was just rude and aknowledged beyonce's (best video ..btw) video at the wrong time . he was a little tipsy and made a mistake . and he appologized , sheesh .

it kills me how george bush could say "i speak mexican" and be president for another year, but everyone wants to throw kanye under the bus for an award show. kanye is still a great artist and taylor swift just got a whole lot more sympathy fans . whatever , get over it .



and yes ...he was sincere .