ovary lust .

"have a baby by me baby ...be a millionaire" - 50 cent ft . ne-yo
"girl you make me wanna get chu pregnant ..." R kelly ft. Tyrese

so , ummm . is baby-making the new trend ?

you may think that question is a little exxagerated , but why ? plenty of radical trends have taken over our generation . a majority of the people our age have tried or smoke weed . tattoos have engulfed the nation !! everybody has tatts these days and not just a little tattoo on the back, but i mean tattoo sleeves and murals are as common as ear piercings . another trend in cali is thizz pills and ecstasy pills . you may say, "nawwww, black folks dont mess with that" . well, best believe it .
[now im not passing judgement on these things ...except thizzin cause thats just crazy lol]

anywho,

we may not want to acknowledge it, but so many people have babies (out of wedlock) . Reagan called Black women "welfare queens" and sparked controversy during his presidency . Now, i completely resent this stereotype that he imprinted on African American women's forehead . Nevertheless, it's becoming more and more popular to have a baby by a boyfriend than a husband . it's becoming way more common to have a baby when we are NOT READY .

why ?

is it because we (women) feel as though our boyfriends can provide financially for our child and that's all that matters ? is it because we want to keep our boyfriends around and a baby is the smartest solution ? perhaps we feel as though our kids dont need a male influence, that we can do it all ? maybe it's because we equate boyfriends to husbands ?

to be honest, i wish people would stop down playing babies like its some kind of cheetah print culture phase . bringing another helpless life into the world and worse, into your DRAMA is not fair . if you dont have a job, dont have a baby . if you dont have a drop of maturity, dont have a baby . boyfriends ARE NOT HUSBANDS . true, the divorce rate has sky-rocketed in America, but at least people who get married do so with the intension of being with that person for the rest of their lives . so if you dont have a stable, loving, responsible father figure for your child ...dont have a frickin baby . why cripple your child with one loving parent if they can have two ? dont they deserve that ?

what you do can affect a child for the rest of their lives . day care, food choices, environment, and all other aspects play into who they will be in 20 years ... happy, depressed, resentful, broke, educated, or ignorant . it's simply arrogant to have another life in your hand and act like it's not a big deal .