the 'bougie bar'

when most women were younger, their qualifications for a guy were pretty simple :

1. he has to be "fine" ...we used to always say "fine" :)
2. funny
3. nice

my friend said that she thinks she's bougie when it comes to romance . she blames this on her qualifications for a boyfriend . she said he has to be in school, and the thought of him spending his 'last ten dollars' on her is not cute ... but unattractive . she then went on to say that it would be okay if he was broke and in school, but since he is working and broke ... it was apparent that he needed to be in a classroom . she explained that she thinks it's sexy when a guy can take care of her sometimes: pick her up, pay for food and/or going out on dates .

but is that bougie ?
[bougie. stemming from the word "bourgeois" which is the upper, snobby-er class in society]

another perspective is a girl who feels like a guy spending his last couple of bucks on her is sweet . she does not care about how much money he has, and she does not care about his future goals and ambition ...she is more concerned the thought of their relationship . she said that he calls her his "future wife" and that makes her feel like she's on top of the world ... and that's all that matters .

to be completely honest, im not sure if i want to include my opinion . i think i will in a couple of days if i do . in the meantime , do you guys (women & men) think there is a 'bougie bar' ? standards that are ridiculous ? what is acceptable ? what standards are too low when it comes to status, money, goals, etc ? hmm .