the matching game .
it's zora neale hurston week ! (i just decided this two minutes ago lol) she is such an astonishing, controversial person . her language, beliefs, lifestyle and confidence really shook her peers & honestly .... im still in awe . with that being said, im going to let her quotes inspire my writing this week :
"Nothing that God ever made is the same thing to more than one person. That is natural." - Zora Neale Hurston
i don't know if i believe in soulmates . this uncertainty and pessimism really makes my skin crawl because that statement sounds so ... defeated . i don't know if time, age, or circumstance has changed my view exactly; nevertheless, i do know that my perspective on "mates" has changed numerous times .
when i was a kid (about 7), i thought you could only fall in love ONCE . the concept of falling in love over & over did not resonate well with me at all . i mean, all of the Disney princesses met one guy and lived happily ever after . Princess Jasmine didn't date a bunch of boos & Princess Ariel only had eyes for Prince Eric ! In my mind, my mom only EVER had feelings for my dad & vice versa [clearly that was hardly the truth lol] .
BUT what is a "soulmate" anyway ? i think i believe in compatibility more than anything these days . i think certain people have the traits & chemistry to be GREAT , but i think a growing and lasting love is based majorly on three things: 1)God's influence in a bond 2) people's personal choices, and 3) the willingness to put in the effort . God can give you the all of the ingredients (chemistry, compatibility, love), but it's up to us to follow his directions . without that, you'll end up with hot pockets instead of the four course dinner you were hoping for . don't misunderstand me, i know God has a plan . i just think we as people need to stop focusing on fate and start taking charge & focusing on who we want & how we are going to love that person with all of our might .
PS. i know that i allude to food a lot in my writing (lmfbo) and i honestly cant help it . food is awesome & makes for great analogies =X
( focusing on who we want & how we are going to love that person with all of our might )
ReplyDeletemy reply to that part- I know alot people who think like that, none of them have success in finding the one God has for them especially if your having premarital sex and then get married it's the ultimate FAIL. You may love someone, but that person may be for a season not a life time. Life is about following GOD'S pattern and not the HUMAN chooses, God's pattern will determine your out come. Which will lead you right to your other half that is made just for you, cause it's not about what we want it's what God think is best for us.
i completely agree that we have to yield to God's will for us . i also believe that premarital sex complicates our perceptions of love & relationships .
ReplyDeletehowever, God helps those who help themselves . if you put NO effort into your relationship, why would God bless that union ? God will always do whats best for us, but if you are guarded or lazy in your relationship ...it wont thrive .
God helps those who help themselves . if you put NO effort into your relationship, why would God bless that union ? God will always do whats best for us, but if you are guarded or lazy in your relationship ...it wont thrive
ReplyDeleteGood call, but i wasn't even talking about that, i was talking mainly about living in your own will.
I totally agree with above post and above comments (lol). God gives us more than we can ever write down and keep track of including endless opportunities for success and love etc. the rest is in our hands.
ReplyDeleteI plan to manifest a beautiful relationship with MYSELF. How can I "find" my soul mate if I dont even know my own SOUL lol...Much Peace!
"bbreezy" i love that & it's so true .
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