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If I Were A Poor Black Kid  

<-- read the article first, my thoughts come later.

some twitter responses:

“I think the issue is that he fails to realize that being poor, being black, and being a child each come w/ their own set of circumstances.”

“If everyone was exposed to the same opportunities, who would run the world?”

“It bothers me when people who never had to struggle take authority over the ways to make it out of the struggle.”

“The Forbes article simplifies the factors which can contribute to success and reduces "poor black children" to one category of individuals.”

“Everyone's being so harsh on this man for this article. Why? Because he trying to help the "poor black child" the only way he knows how?”

mm hmm.

"no, i'm gonna change your life. i'm 'that' girl." -


mila kunis

i'm so sorry keyshia.

oh! my pet peeve..

Someone recently asked me, "What is YOUR dating pet peeve?". After much consideration, I realized that I have a few pet peeves. Jealous guys and liars are definitely at the top of the "peeving my pet" chart. However, there is one in particular that always seems drive me to the point of no return:

 

The one thing that really grinds my gears is a narcissistic man. I’m sitting across from you at the dinner and you’re telling me your entire life story – without displaying the slightest interest in me. So there I am ... hearing about where you were born, how many siblings you have, and your high school experiences, while simultaneously trying to digest my food and the information.

Selflessness and reciprocity are vital components to love and relationships. If a man does not have the capability to EVER put the focus on me, then that’s a red flag. When I say “focus”, I am not talking about superficial compliments. I mean a focus on knowing me as a human being- my passions, my values, and the things that are most important to me. I understand that some men want to lay their “everything” on the table to seem honest and trustworthy. Nevertheless, I’m a firm believer that a person cannot be faithful to a stranger. Hence, if a man does not truly know me, how could he be loyal and committed to me? He won't even know what he's committing to. Just a thought :)

and this is why the commercial is triflin'...

Americans have absolutely no problem centering themselves as the lynchpin for normalcy. We constantly look for conveniency, even though it can promote racism and ignorance. The lady says she loves Cabo because it was so "easy" and continues to explain how everyone spoke english ... "even the cab driver".

So the hell what. The point of traveling in the first place is to expand your perception of the world and create a larger sense of humanity for yourself. You may think that i am reading too much into the commercial, but let me ask you this. How many times have you heard someone belittle an immigrant for speaking their first language, "Speak English, you're in America." Nevertheless, how many times do Americans learn other people's languages when we go somewhere else? We're extremely narcissistic. Language is SO powerful and we need to realize that the things we say are a reflection of our minds.