for wasting wallflower women.

i absolutely love it when i'm hanging with a guy and he asks, "what are you thinking?"
i love those moments because the implications behind that question can range anywhere from romance to respect.
in case you haven't noticed, we live in a male-dominated society (i am not cranking up the notch on my feminism, it is just a well known consensus). Because of this macho-centric community, the thoughts and theories of most women are ignored or of minor significance. i have seen one too many women being "hushed and marginalized" in conversations among their husbands and/or male friends. therefore, i can appreciate when a man takes an interest in the opinion of a woman.

on a smaller scope,

my personal pet peeves are when people (in general) try to manipulate, undermine, or lie to me. when someone decides that they will discount what i say or what i am feeling, it's a direct insult to my contribution in a conversation, collaboration or relationship. i do not need to be the center of every conversation, but i know when someone attempts to patronize me. i think it is just as important to think as it is to feel. i have no problem acknowledging my feelings as a woman because emotion is what differentiates me from the laptop on which i type.

i find that men have discovered the one way to completely undermine a woman's concerns and feelings. They claim that she's:

"insecure" or "crazy"
they frown their eyebrows and suggest that a woman is "seeing" or "believing" things because she is not confident in herself. they imply that a woman is blinded and sabotaging the relationship. this causes women to second, third, and fourth guess themselves and believe that they're the problem.  if a boy texts his girl by accident and says, "Hey lisa, i had a good time last night ;)" and his girlfriend's name is Tanika...then she's not being "insecure", she's using common sense lol (AND NO I DO NOT KNOW WHY I CHOSE THAT NAME). no woman wants to be that "crazy jealous stalker", so they appease their man's shady behavior.  NOW, some women are extremely jealous and insecure. nevertheless, most women's intuition is on point.

in short, the fore-mentioned tomfoolery is only an insult to my intelligence. playing the "over reacting", "crazy", "insecure" card on me will only make me believe that a man thinks little of me. So little of me, in fact, that some reverse psychology 'wamp wamp' will lower my self esteem enough to take disrespect or dishonesty. ultimately, i am a firm advocate for men liking my mind as much as my physical appearance and spirit. if you take one for granted, you take it all for granted.

- SRD.

Never let the hand you hold, hold you down.  ~Author Unknown

♥

"if you put crabs in a barrel to insure your survival. you gon end up pulling down niggas who look just like you. what up blood, what up cuhz, it's all black . i love us ." - Jay Z [murder to excellence]

the FULL love poem . even better

they fear what they don't know.

‎"the worst thing you can call somebody is crazy. it's

 dismissive. 'i dont understand this person, so they're

 crazy'. that's bullshxt." - DAVE CHAPPELL.

hip hop shell shock .

THE GOVERNMENT ADMINISTERED CRACK, AIDS ... & HIP-HOP .

initially, i thought i would give my review on Watch The Throne, but then i realized that my concern is bigger than a single album review.

look, i understand that numerous emcees come from nothing and turn it into something. so consequently, "niggas" are going to brag about what they have and how much they paid for it. young, inexperienced rappers like souljah boy, nicki minaj, big sean and waka flocka are going to talk about money, hoes, cars, and labels. that's a given. however, what's the excuse for veteran rappers that have been in the game for years ? after the initial shock of getting their forty acres and a mule from record labels, you would think the veterans of hip hop would have more substantial things to say in their music.

let's not pretend like hip hop was founded on the concepts of Ménage à trois and pushing weight. grandmaster flash, the sugar hill gang and even NWA had more to say about the lifestyle and guidance of black people. You may think, "Well these aren't the civil rights or the rodney king riots." enlighten yourself. right now, we need more guidance than ever before. we have only had complete legal freedom in this country for approximately 50 years.



"Watch the Throne" may be filled with some trivial nonsense, but there is a vital, underlying concept throughout the album. Watch the Throne is challenging the concept of patriotism and our identity as a race. African Americans are the muts of the globe. for centuries, we were told that we were beneath human. for centuries we were "sicked" on each other like pit bulls - competing for "the mass'ahs" good graces. we are finally in charge of constructing our own identity as African Americans and we're still "niggas in coupes". women, we're still half naked and bent over -nose to toes- in the club. men, you're still blowing your refund checks on louis belts and nonsense you cant afford. you would think the KKK was distributing this culture to us, but no ... the pleasure was our own. clearly, we're still missing the bigger picture.    


wake up. music is the most influential medium to reach our youth and race. im not saying that you should stop listening, but at least be aware of how it affects you and your values AND THE VALUES OF YOUR FUTURE CHILDREN. please be aware that our race is not stable. when and where you enter, your race enters with you.